#32: Fruit Bowl Extravaganza!

by Skimming

I had brunch with some friends today, and we got a fruit bowl.  The guy who took our order raved about the fruit bowl, so we ordered it, and I was thinking, “Really, how good could a fruit bowl in Boston be?  I mean, this isn’t like some tropical country or anything.”  But we got it and it was quite amazing!  It even had mango and papaya!

I’ve been reflecting a lot on my experience here in Boston doing the work I’ve been doing and meeting the people I’ve met.  I have a lot of disparate thoughts about this experience that I would like to itemize and then see if there are any common themes, so bear with me:

  1. I know a lot of people, and I think a lot of people look to me as a mentor and supporter; but I have few really good, close friends whom I can lean on and go to when I have my own problems.
  2. I have touched a lot of lives, and I’ve learned a tremendous amount about how to bring out the best in others and in myself, how to create an environment where people empower themselves, come out of their shells and discover their potential.
  3. One can give and give and give but shouldn’t expect anything in return because that won’t always come.  Therefore, it’s not always healthy to give so much.  One has to give to oneself, too, or BURN-OUT ensues.
  4. With youth comes passion, idealism, and sometimes unreachable expectations.  As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned that all that passion, idealism, and high expectations can be tempered with the understanding that the journey is long and in order to persist and endure, I have to be patient.  This is not an easy lesson because I am impatient and want things to happen fast.
  5. Finding allies, like-minded people who want to WORK together is hard, and when you find those people, grab hold of them.  I’m not so good at the “grabbing hold” part.  I’m often afraid to just ask someone if they want to work with me on something.  I don’t want to impose, and sometimes I just assume they’ll say no.  I have to stop doing that and work to build my dream team!
  6. “Everything in moderation.”  Life is about balance, not black and white.  This is my mantra.  I don’t believe in absolutes– absolutely opposed to this, absolutely in support of that.  I think there’s nuance to almost every important social issue, and we need to have more discussion and conversation to raise the bar of intelligent dialogue and critique and feedback.  Why do we always go to the lowest level of intelligence rather than raising everyone up to more civil and rational discussion?
  7. Frozen yogurt is amazing.  Especially “tart” flavors that they have at places like Mixx, Pinkberry, and Red Mango.  Yum.

Those are some of my learnings. Not sure where to go with that.